Beyond just affecting each others moods, we affect each other's wellness, we affect each others development.
Let's say that again; we affect each other's wellness and development.
Never is this more real than in the adult-child relationship.
A longitudinal study at Harvard on happiness tracked over 700 people and their over 2000 children for over 75 years, and still continues today. They are interviewed, their families are studied, their brains are scanned and their blood is tested… and the unequivocal message is that
CONNECTED RELATIONSHIPS MAKE US HAPPIER AND HEALTHIER.
In parenting this is...
In our experience, when we focus our attention on our own inner world’s and draw awareness to who and how we are, we can start to shift what is not working and emphasis what is. Parenting provides the world’s best (and most testing) platform for this.
Do your children ‘push your buttons’? Do you react differently to your children versus colleagues, friends or other family members? Well then universal design is working! Our children are here to grow us. Our homes provide the greatest opportunity and challenge for our own personal development. Yet we spend a lot of time trying to fix our children instead of taking an honest look at ourselves. Guess what! In many an instance we the parents are the tool that is needed to create the mend, the shift, the transformation. When we are able look at who it is that we are bringing to the relationship, shift happens!
This month we are in Cape Town, the Highway area and Durban. And we’re also running our first...
Do you relish some silence in your busy home?
The truth is that our kids wish for that sometimes too. Do we ever consider how much we talk? Is it fairly continuous, albeit mostly with good intent. Just how much of that is necessary? Is it even useful? When we can learn to mind our words we can really use them more effectively. When we learn to use silence as a practice for letting our kids work stuff out for themselves, it becomes hugely powerful.
Open-hearted golden silence is a powerful presence.
Silence, when it is done in anger, is a form of violent communication. However silence that is held in a space that is loving, open & curious can be quite beautiful. Much of what we say, kids already know but we set them up to not listen by talking and repeating over and over again. When we start to limit our words, kids start to connect more with what we are saying as it is mindful and considered.