What is your holiday goal?
You are off the treadmill for a moment, you can take slower mornings and deeper breaths, and we invite you to do exactly that. We invite you to also consider using the less stressful 5-6 weeks ahead of you to choose a goal for the family for the holidays. There is time to rise above the homework-and-normal-responsibilities and consider using this space to grow our children more holistically.
They may be overall goals for the family of;
They may also be goals of skill and good habit such as;
They may be goals of character like
Do you find yourself parenting 'in the moment' most of the time? Any of these sound familiar?
Have you ever considered how ineffective this seems to be? What happens when your emotion collides with theirs?
We have created a truly effective practice for you to bring into your own homes. It allows for issues, concerns, areas of challenge to be dealt with both proactively or reflectively rather than in the heat of the moment. Let us explain this tool to you using the current school holidays, as bridge between term 3 and term 4, as an example.
The reflective part of this practice is a conversation with our kids about the term just passed.
Deep gratitude to each one of you who has journeyed with us in 2014. May you have a peaceful and joyful time over the holidays and in the moments that are not peaceful may you be gifted with the presence to still see the little victories.
Colleen posted something recently that has gone viral we thought we'd share it here for those of you who missed it on Facebook.
I SEE YOU
Its a time of badges, certificates, medals, trophies, recognition, awards, prizes and 'seeing' of high achievement. I love seeing the kids that shine at this time of year - a big high heartfelt round of applause to you. You so deserve it for the effort you have put in.
But this message is for the kids that didn't get called up for any of the above… I SEE YOU.
To the child that conquered their fear of heights, or sleeping in the dark, or riding without training wheels or sleeping out for the night for the first time this year, I SEE YOU
To the child that managed to resolve more conflict than they started...
In our experience, when we focus our attention on our own inner world’s and draw awareness to who and how we are, we can start to shift what is not working and emphasis what is. Parenting provides the world’s best (and most testing) platform for this.
Do your children ‘push your buttons’? Do you react differently to your children versus colleagues, friends or other family members? Well then universal design is working! Our children are here to grow us. Our homes provide the greatest opportunity and challenge for our own personal development. Yet we spend a lot of time trying to fix our children instead of taking an honest look at ourselves. Guess what! In many an instance we the parents are the tool that is needed to create the mend, the shift, the transformation. When we are able look at who it is that we are bringing to the relationship, shift happens!
This month we are in Cape Town, the Highway area and Durban. And we’re also running our first...