What is your holiday goal?

 What is your holiday goal?
You are off the treadmill for a moment, you can take slower mornings and deeper breaths, and we invite you to do exactly that. We invite you to also consider using the less stressful 5-6 weeks ahead of you to choose a goal for the family for the holidays. There is time to rise above the homework-and-normal-responsibilities and consider using this space to grow our children more holistically.  

Goal Consideration
They may be overall goals for the family of;

  • greater connection,
  • consciously slowing down or
  • not running from one activity to the next,
  • de-teching for hours every day or days every week or
  • instituting specific special time alone with each child each day.

They may also be goals of skill and good habit such as;

  • chewing food more carefully and thoroughly and
  • brushing teeth for longer, or
  • making beds or
  • learning a new household activity like gardening or cooking. 

They may be goals of character like

  • instilling...
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Is 'in the moment' the most ideal place to parent?

Do you find yourself parenting 'in the moment' most of the time? Any of these sound familiar?

  • separating bickering siblings with commentary
  • giving a lesson over poor manners at dinner
  • chastising the forgotten duties
  • lecturing on sharing as you break-up a quarrel
  • bemoaning the teacher’s comments on the report card

Have you ever considered how ineffective this seems to be? What happens when your emotion collides with theirs?

Dialogues that can grow the brain and connect hearts. 

We have created a truly effective practice for you to bring into your own homes. It allows for issues, concerns, areas of challenge to be dealt with both proactively or reflectively rather than in the heat of the moment. Let us explain this tool to you using the current school holidays, as bridge between term 3 and term 4, as an example. 

The reflective part of this practice is a conversation with our kids about the term just passed.

  • How was it for you?  This is how it...
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To the brave parents - I see you!

Deep gratitude to each one of you who has journeyed with us in 2014. May you have a peaceful and joyful time over the holidays and in the moments that are not peaceful may you be gifted with the presence to still see the little victories.

Colleen posted something recently that has gone viral we thought we'd share it here for those of you who missed it on Facebook.

I SEE YOU

Its a time of badges, certificates, medals, trophies, recognition, awards, prizes and 'seeing' of high achievement. I love seeing the kids that shine at this time of year - a big high heartfelt round of applause to you. You so deserve it for the effort you have put in.

But this message is for the kids that didn't get called up for any of the above… I SEE YOU.

To the child that conquered their fear of heights, or sleeping in the dark, or riding without training wheels or sleeping out for the night for the first time this year, I SEE YOU

To the child that managed to resolve more conflict than they started...

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Parenting, the most powerful personal development opportunity

In our experience, when we focus our attention on our own inner world’s and draw awareness to who and how we are, we can start to shift what is not working and emphasis what is. Parenting provides the world’s best (and most testing) platform for this. 

Do your children ‘push your buttons’? Do you react differently to your children versus colleagues, friends or other family members? Well then universal design is working! Our children are here to grow us. Our homes provide the greatest opportunity and challenge for our own personal development. Yet we spend a lot of time trying to fix our children instead of taking an honest look at ourselves. Guess what! In many an instance we the parents are the tool that is needed to create the mend, the shift, the transformation. When we are able look at who it is that we are bringing to the relationship, shift happens!

This month we are in Cape Town, the Highway area and Durban. And we’re also running our first...

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