Do you really want to be screamer?

Our reactivity undermines anything and everything we do. We wonder why we don't have influence over our children. We try and control through reactivity but we don't gather respect this way, we actually lose influence.

Screaming and shouting at our kids has been normalized.  Yet if we look at the stress response that sits behind our screaming and their receiving our wrath it is anything but healthy.  No one shouts when feeling calm, it is always a symptom of raised stress levels and coursing adrenalin and cortisol. 

When we shout we amplify this toxic physical, mental and emotional state for us and our children.  What this does is it clouds judgment and reason.  It removes all of our higher order faculties that would be useful in a situation when discipline is required.

Remember, discipline shares the same root as disciple, which essentially means to lead. However when we try and influence our kids through our own reactivity rather than influencing them...

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The Art of Discipline

3 minute read discipline Feb 18, 2016

Repeatedly we hear about the very real struggle for parents of managing discipline. Sometimes the questions are voiced out loud and sometimes the silent despair leaves the questions hanging:

  • Am I being too hard? 
  • Am I being too soft? 
  • How do I raise considerate, respectful children who also have the confidence to be independent and let their brilliance shine?
  • Is it even possible to maintain leadership without smacking?

Contemporary Parenting doesn’t offer a formulaic answer to parenting, we see our role as empowering parents with insights to some of the latest findings in the fields of neuroscience, emotional intelligence, attachment and mindfulness so that they are better equipped to make the best decisions for their families.

There are no easy answers in the area of discipline. Each family dynamic is unique. Comparing the process of disciplining to the process of art creation; both the methods and outcomes are unique - the art and the child. So while these ideas...

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