Reflecting on the year ahead. What is it we would most like our children to emerge with at the end of 2017?
There is an interview (which you can view here) going around on social media with Simon Sinek talking about the Millennial generation. If you haven’t seen it, it is worth a watch. The two key concepts he highlights to overcome their self-esteem trap are connection and patience.
The first of these - connection - is the spine of all our work. It’s the gateway to strong relationships and therefore fulfilment. If you want to know more about how to bring this into your life and home join us at our upcoming Signature parenting course (details here), follow us on Facebook here or read our previous blog post on The Power of Connected Relationships.
Let us focus on the key skill of patience and how we can coach our children to strengthen their patience muscle.
Seeds and Switches
We live in a society where switches are the norm;
What is your holiday goal?
You are off the treadmill for a moment, you can take slower mornings and deeper breaths, and we invite you to do exactly that. We invite you to also consider using the less stressful 5-6 weeks ahead of you to choose a goal for the family for the holidays. There is time to rise above the homework-and-normal-responsibilities and consider using this space to grow our children more holistically.
They may be overall goals for the family of;
They may also be goals of skill and good habit such as;
They may be goals of character like
Beyond just affecting each others moods, we affect each other's wellness, we affect each others development.
Let's say that again; we affect each other's wellness and development.
Never is this more real than in the adult-child relationship.
A longitudinal study at Harvard on happiness tracked over 700 people and their over 2000 children for over 75 years, and still continues today. They are interviewed, their families are studied, their brains are scanned and their blood is tested… and the unequivocal message is that
CONNECTED RELATIONSHIPS MAKE US HAPPIER AND HEALTHIER.
In parenting this is...
Life isn’t about a day, a week, a month, a year, a decade or our whole life – it is about the parts that make up the whole.
The small moments!
These small moments involve presence and awareness. Awareness of a small moment supports us in finding opportunity in uncomfortable moments and deeper joy in the connecting moments. The idea is that, ‘life is a journey not a destination’ – and never is this more true than in parenting. Our children are growing so fast. Two becomes six, six becomes seven, fourteen and then twenty-one! Lets learn together to steep ourselves in the moments.
So what does it look like?
Small moments are the moments that are literally passing us by all day.
Together these small moments make up...
In our experience, when we focus our attention on our own inner world’s and draw awareness to who and how we are, we can start to shift what is not working and emphasis what is. Parenting provides the world’s best (and most testing) platform for this.
Do your children ‘push your buttons’? Do you react differently to your children versus colleagues, friends or other family members? Well then universal design is working! Our children are here to grow us. Our homes provide the greatest opportunity and challenge for our own personal development. Yet we spend a lot of time trying to fix our children instead of taking an honest look at ourselves. Guess what! In many an instance we the parents are the tool that is needed to create the mend, the shift, the transformation. When we are able look at who it is that we are bringing to the relationship, shift happens!
This month we are in Cape Town, the Highway area and Durban. And we’re also running our first...