The Power of Small Moments

Life isn’t about a day, a week, a month, a year, a decade or our whole life – it is about the parts that make up the whole.

The small moments!

These small moments involve presence and awareness. Awareness of a small moment supports us in finding opportunity in uncomfortable moments and deeper joy in the connecting moments. The idea is that, ‘life is a journey not a destination’ – and never is this more true than in parenting. Our children are growing so fast. Two becomes six, six becomes seven, fourteen and then twenty-one! Lets learn together to steep ourselves in the moments.

So what does it look like?
Small moments are the moments that are literally passing us by all day.

  • From waking in the morning
  • to bedtime in the evening there are dozens of small moments that pass us by.
  • At breakfast, in the car,
  • in how we speak to each other,
  • how we carry out each activity,
  • getting dressed,
  • eating together and clearing away.

Together these small moments make up...

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Is 'in the moment' the most ideal place to parent?

Do you find yourself parenting 'in the moment' most of the time? Any of these sound familiar?

  • separating bickering siblings with commentary
  • giving a lesson over poor manners at dinner
  • chastising the forgotten duties
  • lecturing on sharing as you break-up a quarrel
  • bemoaning the teacher’s comments on the report card

Have you ever considered how ineffective this seems to be? What happens when your emotion collides with theirs?

Dialogues that can grow the brain and connect hearts. 

We have created a truly effective practice for you to bring into your own homes. It allows for issues, concerns, areas of challenge to be dealt with both proactively or reflectively rather than in the heat of the moment. Let us explain this tool to you using the current school holidays, as bridge between term 3 and term 4, as an example. 

The reflective part of this practice is a conversation with our kids about the term just passed.

  • How was it for you?  This is how it...
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Silence. Do you have any?

Do you relish some silence in your busy home?

The truth is that our kids wish for that sometimes too. Do we ever consider how much we talk? Is it fairly continuous, albeit mostly with good intent. Just how much of that is necessary? Is it even useful? When we can learn to mind our words we can really use them more effectively. When we learn to use silence as a practice for letting our kids work stuff out for themselves, it becomes hugely powerful.

Open-hearted golden silence is a powerful presence.

Silence, when it is done in anger, is a form of violent communication. However silence that is held in a space that is loving, open & curious can be quite beautiful. Much of what we say, kids already know but we set them up to not listen by talking and repeating over and over again. When we start to limit our words, kids start to connect more with what we are saying as it is mindful and considered.

  • Say what you mean.
  • Mean what you say.
  • Commit to yourself to stop the cycle of...
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